I read an article the other day in Newsweek about the art of teaching your child consequences. It is one of the best lessons that we can impart onto our children. You do "x" and "y" and sure enough that "z" comes along everytime. It is not about fair or not fair it simply is. No matter how we try to spin things, good decisions and hard work seem to make a person "lucky" and "blessed" everytime.
The flip side of this is that no one can learn how to make good decisions without making the wrong turn now and then. Our children must fall down. It -------Pause for a kiss from Nathan----- is a hard balance as a parent to know when to catch them and to know when to let them fall. A little black and blue builds character, a lot may end up in permanant scarring.
So as Adam and Nathan go through life and lead each other down paths I am sure that we would rather they not go down, I hope that we catch them before the cliffs, but can let them roll down the hills.